As I silently took in the sight of a sober man scrutinize a fellow homeless but drunken man struggling to hold his footing one cold evening, it made me think how women are said to be their own worst enemies, and as this is relatively true, I believe it is for the best. Hold on before you turn the page, and ‘hear’ me out. You may not have the fondest of memories of fellow women disregarding you in whatever way, but just think of the consequential effects it has had.
It probably taught you to love and appreciate yourself more, despite the female colleague who kept eyeing you from head to toe because the clothes you wore did not flatter your body. Remember how this got to you so much that you invested in a new wardrobe that has gotten you looking dazzling at the office and suddenly those who never noticed you before can barely take their eyes of you; and just because some woman looked down upon your fashion sense. Thanks to her, you are now more confident.
What of the mother-in-law who showed no faith in your cooking and cleaning, basically in the whole management of your own home. Just to get her off your back, or rather just to piss her off, you enrolled in culinary school to sharpen your cooking skills and you invested in a home interior designer to create a home like no other. So as much as you went on about how as a woman she should respect how you manage your household; you came out victorious and not only did you shut her up, but you are now better at most things.
Your high school nemesis; how you despised that little monster. She was better at everything; she had better clothes and she had more friends. You caught up with her later in life by some uncalled-for fate and she had a better job, a better car and a better home. But you took it upon yourself not to be the laughing stock this time and you set your mind to get a better job, invested in the stock exchange and now you boast of a better car, a better job, and soon, a better home. Do you see how you have come out victorious yet again, thanks to some woman?
How can we talk about female enemies, and not discuss your man’s ex. Even the mention of her name makes your heart pulsate, as you call her unprintable names in the safety of your mind. She tried to outdo you and remind your better half of the fun times they shared and those unforgettable vacations they enjoyed. And sure enough you had to top this, lest your man blindly ran back to her. To avoid scenes of her singing to you dancehall artist Cecile’s song, “You should have seen me with your boyfriend...,” you sort to please your man in every possible way and he remained satisfied in what is now a blissful relationship all your friends are shamelessly envious of. All this because some woman was trying to win him back.
She may not be termed staunchly as an enemy, but something to that effect. I am referring to the born-again Christian woman who lives a few blocks from you. Every time you came home from a stark-raving night with the girls, she gave you daggers that had you cursing her out. But the more she compelled you to at least visit her church one Sunday, when you had time, you discovered that knowing God is not so bad, in fact it is the best thing that has happened to you, as one quote goes;” A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first, to find her.”
So you see; a woman enemy is not all that bad after all.
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